Sep 14, 2024

​8 life lessons to learn from the Japanese bestseller 'The Courage to be Disliked'

Aakanksha Sharma

Lessons from a bestseller

​‘The Courage to Be Disliked’, a Japanese bestseller by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga, is a book that teaches important life lessons based on Alfred Adler’s theories on psychology. Here we mention 8 life lessons that are mentioned in the book.

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​Being happy is a choice

One of the main messages and lessons that the book aims to teach people is that being happy is something that you need to choose. Situations will come and go, and different kinds of people will try to meddle in your ways, but your happiness has to be one the forefront.

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​Don't live to please others

Another important life lesson is that you can’t live pleasing others. When you don't please people, some of them will dislike you, and that is the courage you need to inculcate.

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​You can't control what others think

Another point that the book stresses on is that it is not right to waste your energy on trying to change what people think about you or a certain situation linked to you. You cannot change their thoughts and opinions, so keep calm.

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​All problems in current relationships are related to past ones

Another point the author makes is that all the problems and troubles that you have in your current relationship, of any kind, is somewhere related to a relationship problem of the past. So, try to heal your past before obsessing over the future.

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​Live in the present

Another important life lesson, that seems cliche to some, is that live in the present and on your terms. Be here, be in the now, and don't let the past dictate how your future will be.

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​Keep yourself accountable

You are the only person responsible for your life. Your mother, father, husband, no one will take responsibility for your life and decisions. So, keep yourself accountable, in control, and sharp-minded to make the right choices and decisions.

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​Don’t focus on validation

In today’s times, people seem to thrive on external validation. Two sentences of appreciation and their day is made. But, this won’t go on for long and you need to equip yourself to work for yourself rather than for validation.

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To change, you need courage

Finally, the book teaches that to change you need courage. Change is big, and inevitable, and one needs courage to accept it. So, don’t fear change, try to accept and embrace it and see how well you will thrive.

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Thanks For Reading!

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